I am a stay at home mother by choice, not because I am uneducated, lazy, or lack motivation in any way. I made this choice internationally, just like you chose to have a career. I dedicate my days to raising happy, healthy, well educated, independent members of our society. What you dedicate your days to is your business. I would not trade places with you, trade homes with you, trade cars with you, or trade bank accounts with you. I am perfectly content with what I have and am proud of my life.
I am a parent to my children. They are not raised by teachers, day care providers, or other family members. They are raised by my husband and me. I know what they had for lunch today, what they learned today, how they feel about religion, politics, the environment, and almost any other topic you can think of. I know their hobbies, their dreams, and their hopes. I am teaching them how I feel and what I think about all of the above topics. Who does and knows these things about your children. Who do your children go to with problems and just the regular day to day conversations. Who made their lunch today and what did they have. Where are they right now, (school or daycare is a broad term for I am not sure, are they in science, math?) and who is influencing them?
Who do they spend most of their time with? What about their siblings, do they interact well with them, or interact with them at all. Is their peace in your home or is it full of turmoil? I bet you had a good conversation with a co-worker today, did you have one with your child?
I don't believe that my life is for everyone and I don't believe there is any other life for me. I am well aware that if you are a single mother you have no choice but to work. But, if you are a married women and working then you chose money over mothering. That is your choice. I am not trying to judge you, I am asking you to try not to judge me. I know some of this sounds harsh and I am sorry for that. It is from years of being brushed aside and made to feel less of a contributor to society. I and every other mother are the biggest contributors to society, we are the bearers of the next generation. What more can one do than to shape the lives and minds of our future generation. In the end you are responsible for every good and bad thing that happens in your child's life. I wasn't there is the worst excuse because there is no reason why you shouldn't have been there. It all boils down to priorities and perspective. Live and let live